Feb. 17th, 2017

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My children are for the most part healthy, happy, considerate, polite and doing fine in school. I enjoy spending time with them and will be sad to miss them when they move on and out into life as adults. While I appreciate my good fortune and my children seem to be doing well so far, I also understand that they may well not turn out to be wonderful contributions to the world at large. They may even turn out to be not quite perfect. Whatever their flaws, I will continue to love and appreciate them, but for what they are rather than for what I might have hoped they could be.

I accept that I have my own flaws after all. I might have started promisingly: I graduated from King's College, Cambridge, I scored a perfect 800/800 in the quantitative and analytical sections of the Graduate Record Examination, and within a few years was charging a high hourly rate for doing interesting research and development projects, gaining enough management experience to become a Chartered IT Professional. Now I am rather less distinguished: today I wrestle poorly documented, buggy software (Hibernate) and I shall consider this weekend a provisional success if I get as far as checking the cars' tire pressures and we get some overflow recycling to a council waste site. We start out with hopes and dreams but we need to be realistic about how life goes. Even if my children achieve as highly as I did (until I didn't) my main hope for them is just more that they are happy in life. I do not spend much of my own time reflecting regretfully on my mistakes: even if I remain outwardly mediocre I still have faith that I yet have many worthwhile experiences to look forward to.

[personal profile] mst3kmoxie, our children and I are all left-handed. It is thought that one cause of the condition is brain injury. It is certainly correlated with shorter life expectancy. So, we have some possible flaws there. This is okay: it is just how things are so one best just roll with that: the point is not to be threatened and horrified but just to accept it and find the silver lining.

With my thinking that we are all flawed and we are mostly not all that objectively special but that we have value nonetheless, it is thus with sadness that I belatedly discover the indigo children movement. Goodness, what nonsense, ideas like that learning-disabled children are the manifestation of some spiritual evolutionary next step for humanity. (Indigo because of their auras, apparently.) I can understand that parents may want their children not to be flawed and suffering but the tragedy of this need for comforting delusion is matched by the evil of those who profit from peddling the bullshit.

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